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As the calendar flips to a new year, many people eagerly set New Year’s resolutions.

These well-meaning commitments often focus on self-improvement—losing weight, exercising more, or saving money.

However, despite the initial enthusiasm, studies show that by the second Friday of January, known as “Quitters Day,” most resolutions have been abandoned.

According to a 2020 report by Strava, the social network for athletes, this day marks the point when motivation dwindles, and goals are left unmet. Many people set overly ambitious goals or lack a clear plan to achieve them, leading to feelings of overwhelm. As the initial excitement fades and real-life challenges arise, the gap between expectations and reality grows, causing many to lose their resolve.

The Challenge with Resolutions

New Year’s resolutions are typically outcome-focused and specific. While setting measurable goals has its merits, resolutions often lack flexibility and can lead to frustration when life inevitably throws curveballs. For instance, resolving to hit the gym five days a week might sound achievable on January 1, but by mid-January, the demands of daily life often derail these plans. The result? Feelings of failure and self-doubt.

Statistics underscore this trend. Research from the University of Scranton suggests that only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s resolutions. The issue lies not in setting goals but in the rigid, all-or-nothing mindset they often foster. This mindset stems from the pressure to achieve perfection, leaving little room for flexibility or setbacks. When individuals view a single misstep as failure, it can lead to abandoning the goal entirely, undermining long-term success and personal growth.

The Power of Intention

Rather than setting rigid resolutions, consider the practice of setting intentions.

An intention provides a guiding principle for how you want to live and feel throughout the year.

It’s less about achieving a specific outcome and more about aligning your actions with a greater purpose.

For example, instead of resolving to lose 20 pounds, you might set an intention to nurture your body. This shift allows for a variety of actions—eating nourishing foods, engaging in joyful movement, or prioritizing sleep—that align with your overarching purpose. Intentions are flexible and adaptable, which makes them more sustainable over time.

Why Intentions Work

Setting intentions taps into intrinsic motivation—the desire to do something because it aligns with your values and brings personal satisfaction. Research published in the journal Motivation and Emotion highlights the power of intrinsic motivation in sustaining long-term habits. When actions stem from a deeper purpose, they become more fulfilling and easier to maintain.

Additionally, intentions encourage mindfulness. By regularly reflecting on your intention, you stay present and connected to your goals, even when challenges arise. This practice can also enhance emotional resilience, helping you bounce back from setbacks more effectively.

Living with Purpose

A life without purpose can have detrimental effects on emotional and physical health. A 2019 study in JAMA Network Open found that individuals with a strong sense of purpose had a significantly lower risk of mortality and cardiovascular events. Purpose acts as a buffer against stress and provides a sense of direction, especially during difficult times.

Conversely, a lack of purpose can contribute to feelings of aimlessness, low self-worth, and even depression. The human need for meaning is deeply rooted, and neglecting it can lead to long-term dissatisfaction. By setting an intention, you create a touchstone that reminds you of what truly matters, fostering a sense of fulfillment and direction.

How to Set an Intention for the Year

Reflect on Your Values: What matters most to you? Consider your priorities, passions, and the areas of life where you’d like to grow.
Choose a Guiding Word or Phrase: Summarize your intention in a simple, inspiring way. Words like “balance,” “growth,” or “connection” can serve as daily reminders of your purpose.
Visualize Your Ideal Life: Imagine how living in alignment with your intention would feel. Visualization can help cement your commitment and inspire actionable steps.
Create Daily Practices: Incorporate small, meaningful actions that align with your intention. These could include journaling, meditating, or setting boundaries to protect your time and energy.
Revisit and Adjust: Life evolves, and so can your intention. Regularly check in with yourself to ensure your intention still resonates and adapt as needed.

Embracing Intentions Over Resolutions

Intentions empower you to approach personal growth with compassion and flexibility. Unlike resolutions, which often hinge on external outcomes, intentions foster an internal shift that can ripple across all areas of your life. They encourage you to live purposefully, even when the path isn’t linear.

This year, as you consider what you want to accomplish, think beyond resolutions. Set an intention that aligns with your values and provides a sense of purpose. Start today by reflecting on what truly matters to you and taking the first small step toward a more meaningful year. Not only will it enhance your well-being, but it will also inspire meaningful and lasting change. With intention as your guide, the new year becomes an opportunity to cultivate a life of authenticity, balance, and joy.

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You’ve accomplished a lot. Whether it’s raising a family, advancing in your career, or managing the complex dynamics of relationships, you’ve built a life full of meaning and purpose.

But every now and then, you can’t shake the feeling that despite all you’ve achieved, something is missing.

That sense of emptiness or restlessness can be confusing, especially when it seems like you should feel content.

This feeling is more common than you might think, especially when you’re balancing a busy, multi-faceted life. It’s easy to push these thoughts aside and power through your day, but that underlying feeling could be your inner voice nudging you toward something more.

Understanding why you feel this way is the first step toward addressing it. Here are five reasons you might be experiencing this sense of missing something and how to shift your mindset to reclaim a more fulfilled life.

1. You’ve Been Prioritizing Others for Too Long

When you’re responsible for many people—whether in your professional life, your family, or your community—it becomes second nature to focus on their needs before your own. You spend time ensuring everything is running smoothly, that others are happy and well-cared for. This constant outward focus can leave little space for you to check in with yourself. Over time, this imbalance can lead to burnout and a feeling of being disconnected from your own needs.

This is especially common for those in caregiving roles, whether that’s for children, aging parents, or even within a leadership position at work. The satisfaction of helping others is meaningful, but without replenishing your own energy and tuning into your own desires, you’re left running on empty. That feeling of something being missing could be a sign that it’s time to shift your focus inward and ask yourself what you truly need.

Start by carving out small moments in your day to connect with yourself. Whether it’s through meditation, journaling, or simply a quiet cup of coffee in the morning, these small acts of self-reflection can help you begin to reconnect with the parts of you that have been neglected.

2. Your Identity Has Become Tied to Your Roles

You’ve worn many hats in your life, from being a spouse, a parent, and a professional to a leader and a caregiver. Each role has shaped you, contributing to who you are today. However, when your identity becomes entirely tied to these roles, it can be hard to separate who you are from what you do. While these roles are essential, they don’t encompass the full spectrum of your being.

The sense of something missing may come from this over-identification with your roles.

When we define ourselves solely by our responsibilities or accomplishments, we miss out on the other parts of our identity that crave attention—our passions, dreams, and creative outlets.

These elements of ourselves often get pushed aside in favor of meeting external expectations.

To combat this, it’s important to nurture the parts of you that don’t directly relate to your job title or family role. Maybe it’s a hobby you used to love but no longer make time for, or a creative pursuit you’ve put on the back burner. Rediscovering these parts of yourself can bring back the joy and fulfillment that’s been missing.

3. Life Transitions Have Shifted Your Priorities

Life is made up of a series of transitions. Children grow up, careers evolve, relationships change. You may be in a phase of life where many of these transitions are happening at once—your kids have moved out, your career might be at a peak or in transition, and you’re possibly stepping into the role of caregiver for aging parents. While these shifts can bring new opportunities, they can also leave you feeling like the old way of doing things no longer works for you.

This feeling of something missing could be an invitation to redefine what fulfillment looks like for this stage of your life. The things that once filled your cup—such as family milestones or professional achievements—might not provide the same level of satisfaction now. As your external circumstances change, your internal desires and goals may also shift.

Embracing this transition as an opportunity for self-reflection can help you uncover new sources of fulfillment. What do you want more of in this next phase of life? What do you want less of? Taking the time to explore these questions can help you adjust to the new normal and create a life that feels rich and meaningful.

4. Your Life Feels Out of Balance

When you’re living a fast-paced life, it’s easy to lose balance. You’re constantly moving from one task to the next, trying to keep up with the demands of work, family, and personal obligations.

While you may be excelling in some areas, the constant juggling act can leave you feeling stretched too thin. When life feels out of balance, that missing piece could be the time and space to simply breathe.

The constant busyness may prevent you from pausing to assess whether the way you’re spending your time aligns with your core values. Over time, this imbalance creates a disconnection between what you’re doing and what truly nourishes you. That feeling of something being missing could stem from not having enough time to focus on what matters most to you.

Finding balance doesn’t necessarily mean doing less, but it does mean being intentional about how you spend your time. Evaluate where your energy is going and whether those areas are fulfilling. It might be time to delegate responsibilities or say no to commitments that don’t serve you, creating more room for the things that bring you joy and balance.

5. You Crave Deeper Meaning

In the midst of managing your daily responsibilities, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. While you’re likely doing well in your career and personal life, there may be a deeper part of you that’s searching for more—whether that’s a greater sense of purpose, spiritual connection, or personal growth. That lingering feeling of something missing could be a signal that you’re ready to connect with a deeper sense of meaning.

This might manifest as a desire for more profound connections with the people around you, or it could be a longing to contribute to something bigger than yourself. Sometimes, what’s missing isn’t something external at all, but rather an internal connection with your values, your purpose, or a spiritual practice that grounds you.

Consider exploring new avenues for personal development or deepening your connection with practices that inspire you, whether that’s through meditation, volunteering, or participating in activities that bring you closer to your sense of purpose. By aligning with what truly matters to you, you can fill that void with meaning and fulfillment.

You are not alone

Feeling like something is missing in your life isn’t a sign that you’ve done anything wrong; it’s often a natural part of growth and evolution. It’s a signal that you’re ready for the next step in your personal journey.

If any of these reasons resonate with you, now might be the perfect time to take action. Laylo Yoga & Wellness offers retreats and courses designed to help you reconnect with yourself, explore what’s truly missing, and discover the tools to create a more fulfilling, balanced life. By taking the time to step away from your daily routine and focus on your personal growth, you can realign with what matters most and create the space to live a more enriched, meaningful life.